She might say that she can’t make plans a few weeks out but refuse to say why. If you call her on it, she might get defensive or brush off your questions. She may get squeamish or uncomfortable when you bring up topics like moving in together, getting married, or starting a family. To address what’s happening, say something like, “I feel like we don’t talk about our future as a couple much anymore. I love having things to look forward to with you and am a little confused. Is there something on your mind?”
She may still say things like “I love you” or “You make me so happy” when you’re together, but ignore your calls or be less physically affectionate. When you ask her what’s going on, she might say, “Nothing. Why do you ask?” If she denies what’s happening, say something like, “Yesterday I texted you a few times and you didn’t respond. I know you have been busy, but it made me feel like you didn’t want to talk to me. "
She may be looking for an out if she’s suddenly hesitant to commit to dates or says she’s too busy to hang out. If you live together, she might start taking a lot of walks to talk on the phone with friends or run errands all day to spend time out of the house. Remember that Aquarius is a super independent sign. If you show your Aquarius partner that you’re comfortable with her taking some space to be on her own, she might relax and come back to you.
Look out for a sudden change in behavior. Maybe she used to give you a big kiss every time she got home from work, but now she gives you a hug or just smiles. This may mean her feelings are waning. Aquarians are known for their uninhibited and wild sex drives. If she’s been uninterested in sex lately and won’t say why, that might be a sign that she’s thinking of ending the relationship. Bring up what’s going on with her gently. You might say, “I feel like we haven’t been as close lately, and I miss you. Is there anything I can do to help us get closer again?”
If she’s an avid musician, for example, she may play her instruments much less or stop playing her songs for you. She might complain that she’s lacking inspiration at work or in her artistic life and start eyeing new interests (without your insight or opinion). To address how she’s feeling, you might say, “I noticed that you haven’t been playing guitar lately. Are you feeling uninspired? Why don’t we take a trip to the music store this weekend?”
She might be dismissive and critical of you one day only to start lovingly reminiscing about your relationship the next. Though she may not mean to toy with your emotions, this kind of behavior can leave you feeling pretty down. Try your best to approach the subject with her honestly if she’s exhibiting this kind of behavior, as no one deserves to be treated this way. You might say, “I feel a little hurt by the way you’ve been treating me lately. Do you think we could talk about it?” If she acts defensive or won’t give you a straight answer, that’s another sign that she may be looking for a way out the door.
Notice if she suddenly has a lot of complaints about your behavior. She might get upset with you about even little things, like forgetting to do the dishes, or act annoyed by quirks that she once really liked about you, like your goofy jokes. If she’s criticizing you often, try your best not to take it personally. This behavior has nothing to do with you and everything to do with her struggles to handle complex emotions. Ask her what’s up by saying, “I feel like you’ve been pretty frustrated with me lately. Is there any way we can talk about this?” Keep your words calm and respectful, as Aquarians might get scared off by a super emotionally-charged outburst.
She might leave your side at a party to go talk to a new friend you’ve never met before (and forget to introduce you). She may start texting a coworker she didn’t used to talk to much and giggle anytime she hears from them. This kind of behavior can really hurt, but try your best to approach the situation with respect and grace. It’s still possible that this is a misunderstanding, and she may not realize that she’s causing you pain. You might broach the subject with her by saying something like, “I know you might not mean to hurt me, but it’s painful to see you flirt with other people in front of me. Can we talk about this?”
Understand that Aquarius people are actually very sensitive underneath their tough, unemotional exteriors. An Aquarius woman that is exhibiting this type of behavior may actually be really hurt. If you made a mistake and realize an apology may be warranted, you might say, “I’m so sorry about forgetting your birthday, Sarah. I completely understand why you’re hurt and I can’t believe I was so careless. " It’s possible you haven’t done anything to upset her. In that case, reach out and ask her what’s going on. Say something like, “Did something happen? You haven’t been returning my texts and calls and I just want to make sure everything is okay. "
If you see her at the grocery store, an Aquarius woman that’s really done might simply keep walking or give you a nod without saying hi. If you say hello and she makes it clear that she doesn’t want to talk, it might be time to accept that she no longer wants to be in a relationship. This is super tough, but remember that there are plenty of others out there who would love to date you.
If you did mess up, try not to beat yourself up about it. Instead, acknowledge what happened, make a promise to change going forward, and forgive yourself. Remember that everyone makes mistakes in relationships and look at it as a learning experience. She may even forgive you after some time.
Aquarius women often leave relationships when they feel like their personal freedom is being taken away. Sometimes, a traditional, monogamous relationship is simply not a good fit for them.
As you rekindle a friendship, show this Aquarius woman that you understand her need for space and share her company with her many other friends. Avoid getting possessive, as this might make her wary of remaining close.
